Oh my God😭 I also recently started a new job and I’ve been feeling this EXACT way. I couldn’t process it enough to write about it but now I’m inspired lol. I messed some stuff up this morning at work like the newbie I am and reading this during my lunch time felt so good.
this happened ~3 weeks into my new job - i'm now about 3 months in and feeling way more skilled and confident. i guess it's true that everyone goes through that painful period
i think east asian parents tend to use shame as a tool to motivate children, e.g. the stereotype, if you don't get good grades, you get disowned. and while it can be a powerful motivator, it can also ruin u
I’m glad you were able to impress that particular student in the end. If you ever want to chat about teaching I’m always happy to! Granted I’ve been teaching elementary school students which is much different from college students, but I’m sure there’s also overlaps haha 😆 wishing you good luck !!
Really love the explicit breakdown between shame and guilt. Great piece, Danny
thanks pete!
Oh my God😭 I also recently started a new job and I’ve been feeling this EXACT way. I couldn’t process it enough to write about it but now I’m inspired lol. I messed some stuff up this morning at work like the newbie I am and reading this during my lunch time felt so good.
this happened ~3 weeks into my new job - i'm now about 3 months in and feeling way more skilled and confident. i guess it's true that everyone goes through that painful period
this was so good
okay and // there’s a def a part of this that is cultural. like eastern raised ppl experience shame in a diff way
i think east asian parents tend to use shame as a tool to motivate children, e.g. the stereotype, if you don't get good grades, you get disowned. and while it can be a powerful motivator, it can also ruin u
I’m glad you were able to impress that particular student in the end. If you ever want to chat about teaching I’m always happy to! Granted I’ve been teaching elementary school students which is much different from college students, but I’m sure there’s also overlaps haha 😆 wishing you good luck !!